When Vicki and I drove into Texas the first thing we noticed were silky smooth roads. Then we saw Texas flags flying high and wide over every ranch and farm; many restaurants, some businesses and houses displayed the Lone Star flag blessing the wide blue skys; monstrous Texas flew proudfully over every car dealership. Cowboy hats and boots were everywhere. Sometimes we saw spurs attached to those boots. (We avoided the Interstates.)
And, of course, wide enthusiastic smiles, spakling eyes and a robust "howdy" greeted us everywhere. I could give numerous examples of Texas friendliness except that it takes me many minutes to write a sentence on this blasted iPad.
We may live in Virginia but our hearts throb in Texas beat by beat.
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Thursday, March 7, 2019
Be Careful
Be careful of your thoughts
for your thoughts become your words.
Be careful of your words
for your words become your actions.
Be careful of your actions
for your actions become your habits.
Be careful of your habits
for your habits become your character.
Be careful of your character
for your character becomes your destiny.
Monday, March 4, 2019
What I Believe
God calls us to confess Christ as Lord and savior:
Salvation is a free gift of God unearned by good deeds:
The Bible is the inspired word of God guiding our paths:
God expects praise, gratitude and joyful living from us:
God desires that we use our gifts to please him and serve others:
Our choices are crucial in the battle against Satan's evil intentions:
- That if you confess with your mouth, Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead you will be saved. For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you confess and are saved. Romans 10:9-10
Salvation is a free gift of God unearned by good deeds:
- For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith---and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God---not by works, so that no one can boast. Ephesians 2:8
- Enter through the narrow gate. For wide is the gate and broad is the road that leads to destruction, and many enter through it. But small is the gate and narrow the road that leads to life, and only a few find it. Matthew 7: 13-14
The Bible is the inspired word of God guiding our paths:
- Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, so that the man of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work. 2 Timothy 3:16-17
God expects praise, gratitude and joyful living from us:
- Be joyful always; pray continually; give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus. 1Thessalonians 5: 16-18
God desires that we use our gifts to please him and serve others:
- We have not stopped praying for you and asking God to fill you with the knowledge of his will through all spiritual wisdom and understanding. And we pray this in order that you may live a life worthy of the Lord and may please him in every way: bearing fruit in every good work. Colossians 1: 9-10
Our choices are crucial in the battle against Satan's evil intentions:
- Put on the full armor of God so that you can take your stand against the devil's schemes. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the power of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. Ephesians 6: 11-12
Thursday, February 28, 2019
Love and Loss
This morning I read an essay in Christian Ethics Today by Robert Baird, Emeritus Professor of Philosophy at Baylor University. I have summarized and rewritten his words here:
As we age we lose people that we have loved. We lose friends, neighbors, co-workers, grandparents, mothers, fathers, sisters and brothers. We lose teachers, mentors, relatives, wives, husbands and sometime we may lose our little girls grownup and our coltish boys turned men.
Grief tears holes in our hearts whenever someone we love dies. Our scars are a testament to the depth of our love. The deeper the love, the more dreadful the scar.
Scars testify to the richness of life. Scars bear out a life lived deeply. And scars affirm that we can suffer the unkindest cuts of all and continue to live and love.
Grief comes in waves. At first wreckage overwhelms us as we gasp for air. The waves tower above us, pummel us, exhaust us. Down, down we sink as we drown in grief. We cling to beguiling memories that hold us up, stop the sinking. Friends and loved ones swim out to help us endure the engulfing waves.
After a while, maybe weeks, perhaps months the towering waves that wash over us billow farther apart. Crushing breakers continue flooding over us but in between we can breathe, we can function, we can live.
The undulations recede, but remain and then in a certain season or an anniversary or on a birthday they come rolling back washing over us with sweet memories of cheerful times past. We reach out to pull loves past toward us but as we do these recollections fade as with an ebb tide.
They keep coming, the waves, but we go on. We survive. We love again with a richer, more profound love born by loss, sustained by remembrance of things past, renewed by hope in the eternal.
As we age we lose people that we have loved. We lose friends, neighbors, co-workers, grandparents, mothers, fathers, sisters and brothers. We lose teachers, mentors, relatives, wives, husbands and sometime we may lose our little girls grownup and our coltish boys turned men.
Grief tears holes in our hearts whenever someone we love dies. Our scars are a testament to the depth of our love. The deeper the love, the more dreadful the scar.
Scars testify to the richness of life. Scars bear out a life lived deeply. And scars affirm that we can suffer the unkindest cuts of all and continue to live and love.
Grief comes in waves. At first wreckage overwhelms us as we gasp for air. The waves tower above us, pummel us, exhaust us. Down, down we sink as we drown in grief. We cling to beguiling memories that hold us up, stop the sinking. Friends and loved ones swim out to help us endure the engulfing waves.
After a while, maybe weeks, perhaps months the towering waves that wash over us billow farther apart. Crushing breakers continue flooding over us but in between we can breathe, we can function, we can live.
The undulations recede, but remain and then in a certain season or an anniversary or on a birthday they come rolling back washing over us with sweet memories of cheerful times past. We reach out to pull loves past toward us but as we do these recollections fade as with an ebb tide.
They keep coming, the waves, but we go on. We survive. We love again with a richer, more profound love born by loss, sustained by remembrance of things past, renewed by hope in the eternal.
Monday, February 25, 2019
When Someone Offends Us
A friend of mine, Chad Thompson, MD, gave me these two ways of responding to offensive words.
When someone offends us we can:
When someone offends us we can:
- Tell others about it.
- The listener begins to think less of my offender (and/or less of me).
- They join me in thinking negatively about my offender.
- I have succeeding in creating division in relationships; making myself more upset by rehashing the details over and over; and knowing and willfully disobeying God's will by reacting according to the flesh rather than to the spirit.
OR when someone offends us we can:
- Go directly to God in prayer.
- God listens and the Holy Spirit gives me a better perspective.
- I feel peace! And the impulse to vent to others is gone.
- I have honored God by valuing unity and harmony over dissension, discord and the temporary pleasure of gossiping.
Thursday, February 21, 2019
Crush Procrastination
Procrastination,
doing low-priority tasks before high priority activities, robs us of valuable
time:
- We usually do the least important things first because they are easier.
- We put off the most important things because they are hardier.
- When we work on the unimportant, we worry about the crucial tasks that aren't getting done.
- We get tension headaches. Ulcers. High blood pressure.
Laziness
To defeat laziness, begin. Once moving, you'll tend to
keep going. It takes greater energy to start an activity than to sustain it.
For example, if you're writing a screen play, put something on paper. Forget
about sharpening pencils, arranging paper, reading one more script for
inspiration. Write. Writers write.
The Quest for Perfection
Nobody
is perfect. Nothing created by anybody is perfect. Stop fretting about getting
everything just right. Learn to do your best and accept the results. Expecting
perfection never gets anything accomplished. To continue with the writing
analogy, get that first draft done. Forget semicolons, active verbs, dangling
participles, mixed metaphors. Just get something down on paper. You can revise and rewrite later.
Indecisiveness
To overcome indecisiveness, use the ready, fire, aim approach. Fire it up
there. Then aim it. Make some mistakes. Learn. Adjust. Move on.
Difficult Tasks
Break down a
difficult task into easy steps. Just do a little at a time. You write a
screenplay or a book one page at a time. Write one page a day and at the end of
a year you will have written 365 pages.
Tuesday, February 19, 2019
The Presidents' President
The
people of Springfield, Illinois little realized what destiny held for Abraham
Lincoln.
Most
pitied him. Married to a virago who embarrassed him with her envious, hostile
outbursts, he withstood twenty-two years of her verbal abuse. His ill-fitting
clothes often had buttons missing and always needed pressing. Until the day he
left for Washington, he milked his cow, groomed his horse, and cut his own firewood.
Cash short, he borrowed money from friends for his Presidential inauguration
trip.
His
past failure bode poorly for future success. Beset by business insolvency
twice, he spent 17 years paying off his debt; he suffered a nervous breakdown
after the love of his life, Ann Rutledge, died; and lost eight elections-state
legislature, speaker of the state legislature, elector, US Congress (twice
defeated), land officer, US Senate (twice defeated), and a vice-presidential
nomination.
Most
of the people opposed Lincoln most of the time. Even his relatives voted
against him! When he ran for President, only one cousin on his mother's side,
and none on his father's side, cast a ballot for him. Twenty of the
twenty-three ministers in his hometown opposed him. Lincoln became President
because the three candidates in the election split the vote allowing Lincoln
to enter office backed by less than a majority of voters.
General
McClellan, the commander of the Army of the Potomac, constantly insulted the
President that appointed him. Once when Lincoln visited him, McClellan kept him
waiting for half an hour. On another occasion, informed that Lincoln had been
waiting for hours to see him, McClellan crept to his bedroom and sent word that
he had gone to bed.
Almost
every man in the Cabinet considered himself superior to Lincoln. Salmon P.
Chase, Secretary of the Treasury, shocked at Lincoln's country ways, criticized
him ceaselessly. Edward M. Stanton called Lincoln "a painful
imbecile" and "the original gorilla."
How
could Lincoln withstand defeat after defeat, criticism heaped upon criticism?
How could he rise above his social limitations to become one of the greatest
leaders the world has known? Answer-Reading.
Lincoln
read the proper books. He filled his mind and soul with wisdom from the ages.
Except for God's spirit in his life, there can be no other explanation for
Lincoln's strength of character. His father was a ne'erdo-well; his mother
died when he was nine; his childhood was marked by neglect and deprivation.
But
Lincoln read. He read the Bible and Aesop's Fables so often that they
affected his manner of talking and his method of thinking. He wore out a
borrowed copy of the Life of Washington. Perhaps his richest find was
Scott's Lessons containing speeches of Cicero, Demosthenes and
Shakespeare's characters. He studied the book until he could recite long poems
and speeches by heart.
Lincoln
devoured books throughout his life. Biographies. Humor. History. Law. During
the Civil War, Lincoln spent hours reading. Many times he would read passages
from Shakespeare to his Cabinet, personal secretary, and visiting dignitaries
and friends. Yes, more than any other factor, the books Lincoln read molded his
character and enabled him to withstand the agony of outrageous fortune.
During
his debates with Douglas Lincoln said,
"I am not bound to win, but I am
bound to be true.
"I am not bound to succeed, but I am
bound to live up to the light I have."
Rather than founding his self-worth on the
opinions of others, Lincoln lived by an internal light, an internal light implanted by enduring character traits formulated by
reading.
Monday, February 18, 2019
Oops!
Oops! I goofed-up. For the past two years I have been writing two blog posts every week. Last week I missed a post.
The reason for writing two posts each week comes from a belief that consistency increases readership.
Every writer wants readers. But do I write to get readers? No, actually.
I write for the enjoyment of putting words together, to express feelings, to encapsulate vague ideas into precise, clear thought, to have fun with humor.
I write because I don't know what I am thinking until I read what I write.
I write for the joy of writing. And I write to encourage myself.
And that dear reader is where you come in. I write to bring encouragement, optimism and hope to us all.
All of us benefit from encouragement and that is where consistency enters. I want to bring to you--to us--an unwavering, shimmering, sparkle of hope for our spirits that you--that we--can count on receiving each week.
The reason for writing two posts each week comes from a belief that consistency increases readership.
Every writer wants readers. But do I write to get readers? No, actually.
I write for the enjoyment of putting words together, to express feelings, to encapsulate vague ideas into precise, clear thought, to have fun with humor.
I write because I don't know what I am thinking until I read what I write.
I write for the joy of writing. And I write to encourage myself.
And that dear reader is where you come in. I write to bring encouragement, optimism and hope to us all.
All of us benefit from encouragement and that is where consistency enters. I want to bring to you--to us--an unwavering, shimmering, sparkle of hope for our spirits that you--that we--can count on receiving each week.
Monday, February 11, 2019
Praying with Faith
Prayer is unlike
putting a nickel in a gum machine, twisting a handle, and then waiting for the
gum to pop out. Asking God for a yellow bicycle is similar to mailing a list of
Christmas wishes to the North Pole.
God is not Santa Claus and
treating God as if he were cheats us out of the treasured relationship we can
have with him.
Prayer is not a
numbers game. Notre Dame's football victory over Southern Methodist University
has nothing to do with who has the most people praying for success. Notre Dame
wins because their players are bigger, stronger, and faster. (Winning coaches
pray like God decides victories and they recruit like he doesn't.)
Faith has nothing
to do with answered prayer. Faith is the conviction of things unseen. Faith is
the assurance that a loving, personal God exists and because of that certainty
we strive to live a life that will be pleasing to him.
Can we receive
what we ask in prayer? Yes. But a relationship with God comes first. Prayer
allows us to develop a special bond with God that enables us to live the life he
desires for us.
As we gradually, progressively
develop a deep, abiding commitment to God we feel His presence in all that we
do. When we begin to pray as he wants us to pray, when we become aligned with
his will he begins to answer our prayers.
Friday, February 8, 2019
Does Your Friend Have Borderline Personality Disorder?
- Here are some questions to ask if you think that a relative or friend has borderline personality disorder:
Identity disturbance—Do
you have a sense of where you are going in life?
•Disordered mood—Do
you have a lot of mood changes in a day or week?
•Emptiness—Do
you feel empty inside as if nothing is there?
•Suicide—Have
you ever thought of suicide or attempted suicide?
•Paranoia—Do
you feel strangers look at you, criticize or talk about you?
•Fear abandonment—When
you start a relationship do you feel you will be dumped?
•Impulsivity—Has
reckless behavior caused problems with
money, sex, alcohol, eating or resulted in legal problem?
•Rage—Do
you lose control when you get mad?
•Relationship problems—Do
you have trouble getting along with others?
Monday, February 4, 2019
Thoughts Generate Feelings
Our
emotional health depends on our attitude.
We can choose: To accept or refuse
love; grow from or surrender to challenges; enjoy or complain about our work;
modify our habits or let our habits modify us; cultivate tranquility or be
overwhelmed by stress; seize opportunities or cower in a corner; enjoy being
alive or dread waking up.
Proper attitudes create a life worth living and make
time worthwhile. Our response to life's difficulties determines our happiness
and health.
Within us resides the gift to accept responsibility for our own
bliss. We can shape adversity into an advantage. We can turn tragedy into hope.
We can live the life we choose.
The power to change gives us the opportunity
for a blessed and balanced life.
The blind poet, Milton, wrote, The mind is
its own place, and in itself can make a heaven of hell, a hell of heaven.
Thoughts
of two famous people underscore Milton's point:
Napoleon who had power, riches,
and glory said, I have never known six happy days in my life.
Helen
Keller, rendered blind and deaf from childhood meningitis, declared, I have
found life so beautiful.
Events and acquisitions fail to give us joy. Our
thoughts can.
Mind-body research, psychoneuroimmunology, proves that negative
thoughts produce stress hormones. Optimistic thoughts cause the release of
endorphins and other beneficial brain chemicals causing good feelings.
What we
think determines how we feel.
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